What would be the approach to overcoming negative behaviors and making positive changes in one’s life?

1. The first step involves Learning and Education – The systematic training of mind. By selecting and focusing on positive mental states and challenging negative mental states. Learning and education are important because they help one to develop conviction of the need to change and help increase one’s commitment. Therefore learning and education is the first step in bringing about internal transformation, rather than more transcendental or mystical spiritual practices. In try- ing to determine the reasons for these beneficial effects of education, scientists have reasoned that better educated individuals are more aware of health risks factors, are better to implement healthier life style choices, feel a greater sense of empowerment and self esteem, have greater problem solving skills and more effective coping strate- gies – all factors that contribute to a happier, healthier life.

  1. The next step is Developing Conviction (confidence) – This con- viction to change then develops in to determination.
  2. Determination and Enthusiasm – This determination transforms in to action. This step is also widely accepted by the cotemporary Western Science as an important factor in achieving one’s goals. In certain studies psychologists have examined the lives of some Amer- ica’s most accomplished artists, athletes, and scientists and have dis- covered that drive and determination, not great natural talent, led to their success in their respective fields. As in any other field, one could assume that this principle would equally apply to the art of achieving happiness. Behavioral scientists have extensively researched the mech- anism that initiates, sustains and directs our activities and that mech- anism is called ‘Human Motivation’.
  3. Human Motivation – Psychologists have identified three principle types of motives –- a) Primary motives – are drives based on our bio- logical needs that must be met for survival. This would include for example, needs for food, water, and air. — B) Stimulation and infor- mation. – This is an innate need required for proper maturation, de- velopment and functioning of nervous system. – c) secondary motives – these are motives based on learned needs and drives. Many second- ary motives are related to required needs for success, power, status or achievement. However these motives generated are not used only in the pursuit of worldly success but develops as one gains a clearer un- derstanding of the factors that lead to true happiness and are used in the pursuit of higher goals, such as kindness, compassion, and spiritual development.
  4. Action – The strong determination to change enables one to make a sustained effort to implement the actual changes.
  5. Effort – The final factor of effort is critical. This is the final factor in bringing about change. The effort is the necessary factoring estab- lishing new conditioning. Through new conditioning we can change our negative behavior and thoughts.

7. Genetic, Social and Cultural Forces; – While science has recently revealed that one’s genetic predisposition (one’s nature) clearly plays a role in an individual’s characteristic way of responding to the world. But most social scientists and psychologists feel that a large measure of the way we behave, think and feel is determined by learning and conditioning (one’s nurture), which comes about as a result of our up- bringing and the social and cultural forces around us. And since it is believed that behaviors are established by conditioning and reinforced and amplified by ‘habituation’, this opens up the possibility of extin- guishing harmful or negative conditioning and replacing it with help- ful, life-enhancing conditioning.


What is Real Sense of Life?

Life is but a stage,
And we all have part to play.

Life is but a journey,
And we go through ups and downs together.

Life is but a dream,
And when we finally wake up, it might be over.

Life is but a game,
And yet we take it so seriously.

Life is but a comedy,
And yet we cry with all our mighty.

Life is but a love song,
And yet we close our ears to its lyrics.

Life is but a paradise
And yet we choose not to see its beauty.

Life is Love,
Life is beauty,
Life is opportunity,
But only to those who choose to see it that way.


Why does one feel fear? How do we overcome it?

Fear is felt when anticipated. Anticipation is again an instrument we handle ourselves.

There is nothing to fear but fear itself.

Values and Education: –

Values are inherited through tradition, upbringing and personal development. All these factors, along with the education we receive from institutions, are what we symbolize a person’s character.

Shadows of Life: –

We run after money, fame and joy, to attain happiness, to be at peace with ourselves. Yet when we attain them, the satisfaction is temporary. And there is no peace.



We suffer so much because we have not yet realized our true identity. We have to transcend both the body and the mind, and then there is no suffering at all. It is the mind that creates the suffering. If only one transcends the mind there is no suffering at all. But to learn this lesson of transcendence, each one of us has to ultimately transcend our senses. To learn this we have to pass through many painful experiences. And without pain we cannot gain anything. This mind can convert this pain in to a joy, into a source of happiness.

For me personally, the suffering is a very special experience. It’s humbling to feel the strength of Mother Nature and battle the elements.

The root of suffering is the attachment: –
You have created a space in your mind that holds a person or object as part of you. When that person or object is criticized, neglected or not with you, you feel pain in your mind and you experience a sense of loss.

Why it is that bad things happen to good people, while so many who are evil, have the best of life?

Bad things happen to good people that they may grow better, nobler, and purer. Even as gold is burnt in the crucible to be cleansed of its dross, even so the good people are burnt in to fire of suffering, and so become pure as thrice burnished gold.

Wealth and pleasures and power and honor are not as good as they seem to be. In many cases, they degrade man and make him corrupt. Whatever be the condition in which you find yourself, whatever be the suffering through which you pass, keep on thanking the Lord all the time. When you do so, your heart expands and you become receptive to the helpful and healing forces of GOD.


Life is a Challenging Journey

Challenge of course we have to meet and journey we have to complete. We all must travel in our own unique way
Memories behind us and dreams ahead
And a new beginning each day.

May you always find new paths to travel? New horizons to explore and
New dreams to call your own.

A perfect life is a contradiction in terms. Life itself is a state of continuous struggle between us and everything outside. Every moment we are actually fighting with external nature, and if we are defeated our life must go. There is for instance, a continual struggle for food, water and air. If food, water or air falls we die. Life is not a simple and smooth flowing thing; it is complex affair. This struggle between something inside and the external world is what we call life. So it is clear that when this struggle ceases there will be an end of life. What is meant by ideal happiness is this: the cessation of struggle. But then life too will cease, for the struggle can cease only when life itself has ceased.

Laws of nature are a method, the manner, in which our mind grasps a series of phenomena; it is all in the mind. Certain phenomena, happening one after another, or together, and followed by the conviction of the regularity of their recurrence, thus enabling our mind to grasp the method of the whole series, are explained by what we call natural law.

Life is but momentary, whether you are a toiler in the streets or an emperor ruling millions. Life is but momentary, whether you have the best of health or the worst. There is but one solution of life and that solution is SELF RE- ALIZATION. If God and Religion are real, then life becomes explained, life becomes bearable and life becomes enjoyable. We have to see God to be convinced that there is God. Nothing but our own realization can make religion real to us.


20th century philosophy of Life:

The current era has seen radical changes in conceptions of human nature. Modern science has effectively rewritten the relationship of humankind to the natural world, advances in medicine and technology have freed us from some of the limitations and ailments of previous eras, and philosophy—particularly following the linguistic turn—altered how the relationships people have with themselves and each other is conceived. Questions about the meaning of life have seen equally radical changes, from attempts to reevaluate human existence in biological and scientific terms (as in pragmatism and logical positivism), to efforts to meta-theorize about meaning-making as an activity (existentialism, secular humanism).


Each man and each woman creates the essence (meaning) of his and her life; life is not determined by a supernatural God or an earthly authority, one is free. As such, one’s ethical prime directives are actionfreedom, and decision, thus, existentialism opposes rationalism and positivism. In seeking meaning to life, the existentialist looks to where people find meaning in life, in course of which using only reason as a source of meaning is insufficient; the insufficiency gives rise to the emotions of anxiety and dread, felt in facing one’s radical free- dom, and the concomitant awareness of death. To the existentialist, existence precedes essence; the (essence) of one’s life arises only after one comes to existence.

Naturalistic pantheism:
According to naturalistic pantheism (a doctrine that equates GOD with the forces and laws of the universe), the meaning of life is to care for and look after NATURE (the environment) and SOUL of all living creatures. This is my religion.