DEALING WITH ANGER AND HATRED

DEALING WITH ANGER AND HATRED: –

Even though under rare circumstances some kind of anger can be positive, generally speaking anger leads to ill feeling and hatred. And as far as hatred is concerned, it is never positive. It has no benefit at all, It is always totally negative. We cannot overcome anger and hatred by suppressing them, but we need to actively cultivate the antidotes to hatred – like patience and tolerance. In order to be able to successfully cultivate patience and tolerance you need to generate Enthusiasm, a strong desire to seek it.

Patience and Tolerance: –

In our day-to-day life experiences, tolerance and patience have great benefits. For instance developing them will allow us to sustain and maintain our presence of mind. So if an individual possesses this capacity of tolerance and pa- tience, then even in spite of living in a very tense environment, which is very frantic and stressful, so long as the person has tolerance and patience, the person’s calmness and peace of mind will not be disturbed. True tolerance or patience has a component or element of self-discipline and restraint, or humility in it. The realization that you could have acted otherwise, you could have adopted a more aggressive approach, but decided not to do so. The end result, or a product of patience and tolerance is forgiveness. When you are truly pa- tient and tolerant, then forgiveness comes naturally. It’s possible to let go of the negative feelings associated with the events.

Meditation on anger: –

For the few minutes of meditation everyday, simply let your mind remain on the resolution not to fall under the influence of anger and hatred. Because if one does become angry, one loses the peace of mind, lose composure and assume ugly physical appearance.

if you discover that ”Yes, it is of no use to allow that irritation to develop, then say to yourself” In future, I will never do that “ develop that determination. Finally for last few minutes of meditation, place your mind upon that conclusion or determination.

Anger Patiently: –

To never get angry is a tall order for almost any human being. So when we see anger as failure, and we try not to be angry and fail, it is so easy to turn the gun on ourselves when our anger comes. We blame ourselves and put ourselves down for not being able to control us. Don’t turn the gun in yourself. Don’t give yourself a guilt trip. We spend our lives learning anger, so we are not going to unlearn all the beliefs and habits, which create our irritations, frustrations and angers in a few days, or even a few weeks. So be easy on yourself. Healing the inner scars, forgiving us, transforming those habits, are all aspects of this inner work, and they take a little time. Be patient; be gentle and merciful with yourself. And if you do decide you want to forgive and heal yourself, if you do decide you don’t want to be a slave to others words and actions, if you do decide you want to be free of your negative feelings, one of the secrets is not to fight or struggle with those old habits. Accept them when they come, for whatever reason, and you’ll be amazed how quickly the habit of those feelings is dissolved. All healing begins with acceptance, including the healing of our feeling.

PAIN AND SUFFERING IN LIFE:

PAIN AND SUFFERING IN LIFE: –

There is a difference between physical pains, which is a physiological process, and suffering, which is our mental and emotional response to the pain. So the question arises – can finding, an underlying purpose and meaning behind our pain modify our attitude about it? And can a change in attitude lessen the degree to which we suffer when we are physically injured?

There is no doubt that our attitude and mental outlook can strongly affect the degree to which we suffer when we are in physical pain. Let’s say, for instance, that two individuals, a construction worker and a concert pianist suffer the same finger injury, while the amount of physical pain might be the same for both individuals, the construction worker might suffer very little and in fact rejoice if the injury resulted in a month of paid vacation which he or she was in need of, whereas the same injury could result in intense suffering to the pi- anist who viewed playing as his or her primary source of joy in life.

Pain begins with a sensory signal – an alarm that goes off when nerve endings are stimulated by something that is sensed as dangerous. Millions of signals are sent through the spinal cord on the base of the brain. These signals are then sorted out and a message is sent to higher areas of the brain telling of pain. The brain then sorts through the prescreened message and decides on the response. It is at this stage that the mind can assign value and meaning to the pain and intensify or modify our perception of pain.

We convert pain in to suffering in the mind.

To loosen the suffering of pain, we need to make a crucial distinction between the pain of pain and the pain we create by our thoughts about the pain. Fear, anger, guilt, loneliness, and helplessness are all mental and emotional responses that can intensify pain. So, in developing an approach to dealing with pain, we can of course work at the lower levels of pain perception, using the tools of modern medicine such as medications and other procedures, but we can also work at the higher levels by modifying our outlook and attitude.

 It is our suffering that is the most basic element that we share with others, the factor that unifies us with all living creatures.

THOUGHT POWER

THOUGHT POWER: –

All that we are is the result of what we have thought, it is founded on our thoughts and made up of our thoughts.

Thoughts are ink in the pen with which we are writing our destiny.

As you think so you become. By changing one’s thought pattern, one can change one’s life.

Thoughts are things, thoughts are forces, and thoughts are the building blocks of life.

Destiny is not matter of chance; it is a matter of choice.

A thought if it is constantly held in mind, will drive us to action, if it is a thought of service, it will lead us to an act of service, if it is a thought of impurity, it will lead us to an act of impurity.

Thoughts take more time and space in our lives than actions.

Thought creates an action: –

An action, which is repeated, creates a habit and a habit is a terrible thing. The sum total of our habits makes our character. It is character that determines our destiny. If we wish to change our destiny, we must begin to change our thoughts. We must change our pattern of thinking. Our minds need to be cleansed of thoughts of lust, hatred and greed, passion and pride, selfishness and miserliness, greed and arrogance, envy and jealousy, resentment and ill will. There are those who nurture thoughts of hatred, envy and jealousy in their hearts how can they ever be happy?

Hatred and happiness can never dwell together, even as darkness and light can never live together.

Thought Control: –

So many of our ills would be cured, if only we could change the pattern of our mind. Change the mind and you change the world. The modern world has gone astray, because it lays undue emphasis on the “work” side of life. Work has its place in life, but more important than “work” is “Thought”. Take care of your thoughts, because every thought is a force, which we generate for our good, or evil.

Positive and Negative Thinking: –

It is not that the man with a positive attitude refuses to recognize the negative side of life. Life has a negative side, a dark side also. The pathways of life are strewn with difficulties. But the man with the positive attitude refuses to dwell on the negative side of life. He looks for the best results from the worst conditions. Surrounded by the trials and tribulations, he looks for some place to stand on. Conditions may be adverse, yet he continues to expect good things. It is an inviolable law of life, that when you expect good, good will comes to you. There are people who always think negative. Speak to them of something and they will tell you “It can not be done! It is impossible! There are people who always think of diseases and death. Those are the ones who, through the magnet power of their own thoughts, draw disease to themselves. They are their own enemies.

MIND AND BRAIN

MIND AND BRAIN: –

Since the human nervous system is the most complex piece of hardware on the planet, it’s no surprise that the most complex form of consciousness accompanies it. Though still eschewed by most mainstream philosophers and scientists, this view is gaining ground, particularly among the alternative intelligentsia, in large part because it provides a potentially non-reductionist framework for understanding the relationship between the mind and the brain (even if some of its proponents, like Chalmers, use it as an argument for the possibility of conscious machines—if all matter is conscious, after all, why couldn’t a super-complex computer be as conscious as you or me?).

GOD versis NEURONS:

Still, in the face of such multilayered complexity, one can’t help but feel compelled to reach for synthesis, whether it’s God or the Neurons that are doing the compelling.

I find the materialist notion that the mind is an irrelevant byproduct of brain function about as plausible as the dualistic idea that consciousness is some ghostly ethereal substance that exists entirely independent of the brain. The truth, it seems, must lie somewhere in between. But where exactly?

Just how the brain’s neural network could function as a “tuning system” for consciousness, however, is still something I’m struggling to visualize. But as one philosopher pointed out to me, “Until someone explains how emergence occurs, we might just as well say GOD did it.” Where mind and brain are concerned, however, even the most integral theories have thus far been unable to explain how the two interconnect, leaving the mind/body problem a mystery for another day.

CONSCIOUSNESS:

Think about it—this whole three-dimensional experience of sound, color, thought, feeling, and movement all somehow arising out of the organic functions of this wrinkled slab of tofu-like substance in your head. It seems hard to imagine, but if it were true, what would that say about the nature of matter itself?

The great specter of brain science is that it will demonstrate that we are merely conscious organic machines, that all of our experience and behavior originates in the brain. Based on the evidence from frontier science alone, it doesn’t seem likely at this point that it will quite be able to do that. But let’s say that it were able to show that most of our behavior and experience is rooted in the brain. What would that mean? Well, for starters, we’d have to come to terms with the fact that we’re a lot more organic machine than we’d like to think.

And this leads us to what may be the most interesting point of all. For as Newberg’s research demonstrates, there is little doubt that the brain is at least a big part of what is enabling us to perceive that higher order. This means that, in what may be the greatest miracle we know, life somehow managed to evolve an organ capable not only of reflecting on itself but of perceiving something higher than itself—perceiving, even, that which many believe to be the very source and creative driver of the cosmos. Looked at in this way, the brain suddenly starts to seem a lot less like some frightening organic computer that we’d do well to distance ourselves from and a lot more like a rather mysterious and even spiritual event in its own right. After all, if it can do all that, who knows what kind of genius and untapped potential live within its folds? Given that human evolution is still in its early days, it in fact seems likely that the awesome powers of the human brain have only begun to reveal themselves. If we can use our gray matter to avoid destroying ourselves, we may find that the story of humanity’s higher potentials is just getting started.