AwARENESS I am the boss here; I know more than everyone here. After all, that is why I am the boss. I am a spiritual being; I have to play out a role of responsibility. Each of my employees has his/her own specific role.
THOUGHT They should listen to me. After all I am the one who pays their salaries. Let me listen to their suggestions. Perhaps we can improve something.
DECISION I will show them who is the boss here. Let me understand each of their specialties.
ACTION The boss shouts and argues with them. A two-way dialogue ensues.
RESULT Ill-feeling between boss and employees. Respect and a climate of trust are maintained.

TRUMP = Body Consciousness –Desire, Anger, Greed, Attachment, Ego, = Sorrow

OBAMA = Soul Consciousness – Peace, Knowledge, Love, Purity, Bliss, = Happiness


“Buddha Nature” leads to Happiness: –

“Buddha Nature” refers to an underlying, basic, and most subtle nature of mind. This state of mind present in all human beings is completely untainted by negative emotions or thoughts. Over the past two or three decades, there have been literally hundreds of scientific studies indicating that aggression is not essentially innate and that violent behavior is influenced by a variety of biological, social, situational and environmental factors. It is scientifically incorrect to say that we have an inherited tendency to make war or act violently. That behavior is not genetically programmed in human nature.

We were not born with the purpose of causing trouble, harming others. For our life to be of value, we must develop basic good human qualities – Warmth, Kindness, and Compassion. Then our life becomes meaningful and more peaceful – Happier.

Establishing Empathy: –

One can attempt to increase compassion by trying to empathize with another’s feeling or experience. That empathy is important not only as a means of enhancing compassion, but in dealing with others at any level, if you are having any difficulties, it’s extremely helpful to be able to try to put yourself in the other person’s place and see how you would react to the situation. Even if you have no common experience with the other person or have a very different life style, you can try to do this through imagination. You may need to be slightly creative. This technique involves the capacity to temporarily suspend insisting on your own viewpoint but rather to look from the other person’s perspective, to imagine what would be the situation if you were in his shoes, how you would deal with this. This helps you develop an awareness and respect for another’s feelings, which is an important factor in reducing conflicts and problems with other people.

There are some other factors that can help one deal with others more skillfully. First, it is helpful to understand and appreciate the background of the people you are dealing with. Second, be more open-minded and honest. These are useful qualities when dealing with others.

Compassion leads to Happiness:

Compassion can be roughly defined in terms of state of mind that is non-violent,non-harming and non-aggressive. It is a mental attitude best on the wish for others to be free of their suffering and is associated with a sense of commitment, responsibility, and respect towards others.

For instance, in marriage there is generally a component of emotional attachment. But if there is a component of genuine compassion as well, based on mutual respect as two human beings, the marriage tends to last a long time. In the case of emotional attachment without compassion, the marriage is unstable and tends to end more quickly. In addition to the beneficial effects on one’s physical health, there is evidence that compassion and caring behavior contribute to good emotional health. Studies have shown that reaching out to help others can induce the feeling of happiness, a calmer mind, and less depression.


What is happiness:-

Happiness is a mental or emotional state of well-being characterized by positive or pleasant emotions ranging from contentment to intense joy. A variety of biological, psychological, religious, and philosophical approaches have striven to define happiness and identify its sources.


Psychologist Martin Seligman provides the acronym PERMA to summarize Positive Psychology’s correlational findings: humans seem happiest when they have PERMA activities.

  1. P – Pleasure (tasty foods, warm baths, etc.),
  2. E – Engagement (or flow, the absorption of an enjoyed yet challenging activity),
  3. R – Relationships (social ties have turned out to be extremely reliable indicator of Happiness),
  4. M – Meaning (a perceived quest or belonging to something bigger),
  5. A – Accomplishments (having realized tangible goals).



There is now extensive research suggesting that religious people are happier and less stressed. There are a number of mechanisms through which religion may make a person happier, including social contact and support that result learned coping strategies that enhance one’s ability to deal with from religious pursuits, the mental activity that comes with optimism and volunteering, stress, and psychological factors such as “reason for being.” It may also be that religious people engage in behaviors related to good health, such as less substance abuse, since the use of psychotropic substances is sometimes considered abuse.

The Legatum Prosperity Index reflects the repeated finding of research on the science of happiness that there is a positive link between religious engagement and wellbeing: people who report that GOD is very important in their lives are on average more satisfied with their lives, after accounting for their income, age and other individual characteristics.

Happiness vs. Religion: –Religious people are less stressed and happier than non-believers – WHY?

Some studies show that religion buffers its adherents from worry. Religious people are less depressed, less anxious and less suicidal than nonreligious people. And they are better able to cope with such crises as illness, divorce and bereavement.

Studies also show that the more a believer incorporates religion into daily living-attending services, reading scriptures, praying – the better off he or she appears to be on two measures of happiness: frequency of positive emotions and overall sense of satisfaction with life. Attending services has a particularly strong correlation to feeling happy, and religious certainty – the sense of unshakable faith in God and truth of one’s beliefs – is more closely linked with life satisfaction.

We know that religion’s benefits can be divided into following four areas:

1. Social support – Religion, after all, derives from the Latin Religion friends and community, clergy and congregation.

2. Spiritual support – If you believe there is GOD watching out, for you, which is profoundly comforting. It is the grand scale equivalent of thinking, if I can’t pay my rent at the end of the month, my dad will help.

3. A sense of purpose and meaning – Doing good works through acts of charity or prayer and meditation, provides another sense of connection to community for many believers. That is a key factor in Buddhism’s capacity to foster happiness. A person might emulate the Buddha by imagining he’s breathing in the suffering of others and breathing out energy to heal them.

4. The avoidance of risky and stressful behaviors. – In a national study of thousands of adolescents, it was found that teens who attend less misunderstood and guilty and more cared for than their non religious peers. People can benefit from spirituality without subscribing to a particular doctrine.


Definition of Happiness:

Happiness is a mental or emotional state of well-being characterized by positive or pleasant emotions ranging from contentment to intense joy.

Various research groups, including Positive psychology, endeavor to apply the scientific method to answer questions about what “happiness” is, and how we might attain it.

Philosophers and religious thinkers often define happiness in terms of living a good life, or flourishing, rather than simply as an emotion.

Happiness economics suggests that measures of public happiness should be used to supplement more traditional economic measures when evaluating the success of public policy.

Happiness is a fuzzy concept and can mean many things to many people. Part of the challenge of a science of happiness is to identify different concepts of happiness, and where applicable, split them into their components.

Money doesn’t buy much happiness unless it’s used in certain ways. “Beyond the point at which people have enough to comfortably feed, clothe, and house themselves, having more money – even a lot more money – makes them only a little bit happier.” However we can sometimes get more happiness bang for our buck by spending it in prosocial ways. A Harvard Business School study found that “spending money on others actually makes us happier than spending it on ourselves”.

Psychologist Martin Seligman provides the acronym PERMA to summarize Positive Psychology’s correlational findings: humans seem happiest when they have

  1. Pleasure (tasty foods, warm baths, etc.),

  2. Engagement (or flow, the absorption of an enjoyed yet challenging activity),

  3. Relationships (social ties have turned out to be extremely reliable indicator

of happiness),

  1. Meaning (a perceived quest or belonging to something bigger), and
  2. Accomplishments (having realized tangible goals).

Sociologists define happiness as the degree to which person evaluates the overall quality of his present life as a whole positively. In other words how much a person likes life he or she leads.

By happiness I mean here a deep sense of flourishing that arises from an exceptionally healthy mind. This is not a mere pleasurable feeling, a fleeting emotion, or a mood but an optimal state of being. The person feels in harmony with the world and the self.

Real happiness is the state of lasting well-being that manifests itself when we have freed ourselves of mental blindness and afflictive emotions. It is also the wisdom that allows us to see the world as it is, without veils or distortions. It is finally the joy of moving toward inner freedom and the loving kindness that radiates towards others. Ignorance is an inability to recognize the true nature of things and of the law of cause and effect that governs happiness and suffering.