PRIORITIES OF LIFE

The Mayonnaise Jar & Coffee

(Explaining the priorities of Life & Make good use of time)

When things in your life seem, almost too much to handle, When 24 Hours in a day is not enough,
Remember the mayonnaise jar and 2 cups of coffee.

A professor stood before his philosophy class
And had some items in front of him.
When the class began, wordlessly,
He picked up a very large and empty mayonnaise jar And proceeded to fill it with golf balls.

He then asked the students, if the jar was full. They agreed that it was.

The professor then picked up a box of pebbles and poured Them into the jar. He shook the jar lightly.
The pebbles rolled into the open Areas between the golf balls.

He then asked the students again if the jar was full. They agreed it was.

The professor next picked up a box of sand and poured it into the jar.
Of course, the sand filled up everything else.
He asked once more if the jar was full. The students responded with a unani- mous ‘yes.’

The professor then produced two cups of coffee from under the table and poured the entire contents into the jar, effectively
Filling the empty space between the sand. The students laughed.

‘Now,’ said the professor, as the laughter subsided,

I want you to recognize that this jar represents your life.

The golf balls are the important things – family,
Children, health, Friends, and Favorite passions –
Now suppose that if everything else was lost and only they remained, your life would still be full.

The pebbles are the other things that matter like your job, house, and car. The sand is everything else —The small stuff.

‘If you put the sand into the jar first,’ He continued, There is no room for the pebbles or the golf balls. The same goes for life.

If you spend all your time and energy on the small stuff,
You will never have room for the things that are important to you.

So…

Pay attention to the things that are critical to your happiness. Play With your children.
Take time to get medical checkups.
Take your partner out to dinner.

There will always be time to clean the house and fix the disposal.

‘Take care of the golf balls first and then pebbles second — The things that really matter.
Set your priorities. The rest is just sand.’

One of the students raised her hand and inquired what the coffee represented.

The professor smiled. ‘I’m glad you asked’.

It just goes to show you that no matter how full your life may seem, There’s always room for a couple of cups of coffee with a friend.’

LEARN MEDITATION

Learn Meditation:

Why has meditation been the core practice of all wisdom paths for over two thousand years? Because it is the most effective method to access your innate wisdom, rediscover inner peace and enhance your creative ability. Meditation restores well-being, and once you’re being is well again, all that you do will be successful and fulfilling. But maybe you think you are OK as you are. Perhaps you feel your being is well. But is it. Do you feel tense, worried, hopeless, mentally tired, emotionally upset…ever? Then your being is not well. Your body may be OK but you, the being, are unwell. Medication is for the body, and meditation is for the soul, that’s you, and for your mind. Learning how to meditate is one of the greatest gifts you can give to yourself. Practicing meditation says you care about yourself. Being in meditation can touch the minds and hearts of others a thousand miles away. It actually says that you care about others too.

TRUMP VS. OBAMA

TRUMP VS. OBAMA

BODY-CONSCIOUSNESS SOUL-CONSCIOUSNESS
TRUMP OBAMA
AwARENESS I am the boss here; I know more than everyone here. After all, that is why I am the boss. I am a spiritual being; I have to play out a role of responsibility. Each of my employees has his/her own specific role.
  TRUMP   OBAMA
THOUGHT They should listen to me. After all I am the one who pays their salaries. Let me listen to their suggestions. Perhaps we can improve something.
  TRUMP   OBAMA
DECISION I will show them who is the boss here. Let me understand each of their specialties.
  TRUMP   OBAMA
ACTION The boss shouts and argues with them. A two-way dialogue ensues.
  TRUMP   OBAMA
RESULT Ill-feeling between boss and employees. Respect and a climate of trust are maintained.

TRUMP = Body Consciousness –Desire, Anger, Greed, Attachment, Ego, = Sorrow

OBAMA = Soul Consciousness – Peace, Knowledge, Love, Purity, Bliss, = Happiness

BUDDHA NATURE LEADS TO HAPPINESS

“Buddha Nature” leads to Happiness: –

“Buddha Nature” refers to an underlying, basic, and most subtle nature of mind. This state of mind present in all human beings is completely untainted by negative emotions or thoughts. Over the past two or three decades, there have been literally hundreds of scientific studies indicating that aggression is not essentially innate and that violent behavior is influenced by a variety of biological, social, situational and environmental factors. It is scientifically incorrect to say that we have an inherited tendency to make war or act violently. That behavior is not genetically programmed in human nature.

We were not born with the purpose of causing trouble, harming others. For our life to be of value, we must develop basic good human qualities – Warmth, Kindness, and Compassion. Then our life becomes meaningful and more peaceful – Happier.

Establishing Empathy: –

One can attempt to increase compassion by trying to empathize with another’s feeling or experience. That empathy is important not only as a means of enhancing compassion, but in dealing with others at any level, if you are having any difficulties, it’s extremely helpful to be able to try to put yourself in the other person’s place and see how you would react to the situation. Even if you have no common experience with the other person or have a very different life style, you can try to do this through imagination. You may need to be slightly creative. This technique involves the capacity to temporarily suspend insisting on your own viewpoint but rather to look from the other person’s perspective, to imagine what would be the situation if you were in his shoes, how you would deal with this. This helps you develop an awareness and respect for another’s feelings, which is an important factor in reducing conflicts and problems with other people.

There are some other factors that can help one deal with others more skillfully. First, it is helpful to understand and appreciate the background of the people you are dealing with. Second, be more open-minded and honest. These are useful qualities when dealing with others.

Compassion leads to Happiness:

Compassion can be roughly defined in terms of state of mind that is non-violent,non-harming and non-aggressive. It is a mental attitude best on the wish for others to be free of their suffering and is associated with a sense of commitment, responsibility, and respect towards others.

For instance, in marriage there is generally a component of emotional attachment. But if there is a component of genuine compassion as well, based on mutual respect as two human beings, the marriage tends to last a long time. In the case of emotional attachment without compassion, the marriage is unstable and tends to end more quickly. In addition to the beneficial effects on one’s physical health, there is evidence that compassion and caring behavior contribute to good emotional health. Studies have shown that reaching out to help others can induce the feeling of happiness, a calmer mind, and less depression.

HAPPINESS

What is happiness:-

Happiness is a mental or emotional state of well-being characterized by positive or pleasant emotions ranging from contentment to intense joy. A variety of biological, psychological, religious, and philosophical approaches have striven to define happiness and identify its sources.

PERMA:-

Psychologist Martin Seligman provides the acronym PERMA to summarize Positive Psychology’s correlational findings: humans seem happiest when they have PERMA activities.

  1. P – Pleasure (tasty foods, warm baths, etc.),
  2. E – Engagement (or flow, the absorption of an enjoyed yet challenging activity),
  3. R – Relationships (social ties have turned out to be extremely reliable indicator of Happiness),
  4. M – Meaning (a perceived quest or belonging to something bigger),
  5. A – Accomplishments (having realized tangible goals).